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“Being willing to give love and being willing to receive love are the greatest motivators of transformation.  Being loved and letting someone love you is the most mystical and magical power of transformation.” ~Vipin Mehta

I had a wonderful time talking with Vipin Mehta, who will be my guest on my radio show this coming Monday, the 11th, and on the 25th as well.  I don’t want to give away too much from our conversation, but we were discussing the power of the mind, and how we can transform a negative emotion into more positive and constructive emotions.  I asked Vipin if this could be done in an instant, or if it required some practice and patience.

His response was that it doesn’t come so easily, but he also gave some great recommendations for transforming the negative into the positive, and I wanted to share that with you today.  Vipin said the key to making this transformation has to do with consciousness.  In other words, we need to “expand” our consciousness.  Essentially, there are different levels of consciousness.  We have the brain, which is a physical object, and it is therefore governed by physical laws (physics).  We also have the conscious mind, which is beyond the space-time continuum, and so therefore it is governed by what is called (metaphysics).  The next level “up” is the subconscious mind, and then the next level beyond that is the unconscious mind.  These higher levels of consciousness bring us closer to what Vipin calls “divine energy.”

If we can expand our consciousness into the higher levels of consciousness, then we can start to access the power that lies within that “divine energy.”  Some people would call that intuition; some call it speaking with God; some people would call it yet something else.  Expanding the consciousness is done through the steps Vipin details as “attention, attentiveness, awareness, awareness of being aware.” This can be accomplished through prayer or meditation; we get ever closer to tapping into that divine energy, which provides us with vast knowledge which seemingly defies our natural laws and logic.

Then we moved on to talk about something called the “elixir of forgiveness.”  I didn’t even know what this was, but Vipin was kind enough to share his thoughts about this concept.  He said that all emotions can be positive or negative.  “Anger” is a negative energy, but the same emotion displayed positively is “intensity.”  “Jealousy” is a negative emotion, but when channeled positively, it is displayed as “inspiration.”

The way we can move from harboring negative emotions to their positive counterpart is by utilizing this “elixir of forgiveness.”  It’s a four-step process.

The first step is recognizing that you are experiencing the negative emotion and recognize and overcome the resistance you feel to acknowledge that emotion.  The second step is to forgive yourself, because it is you who created this reality, which is the emotion.  This second step, according to Vipin, is the most difficult step, because it requires tremendous courage and vulnerability.  The third step in the process is to forgive others, and then the fourth step is to ask others to forgive you.

The reason you want to make sure you don’t leave out this fourth step is because it keeps you humble.  If you don’t ask forgiveness, you may walk away feeling that you are better or of higher morality than others, because you are handing out the forgiveness to others.  Vipin said that when you ask others for forgiveness, in the end it creates the “radiance of forgiveness” and releases tremendous amounts of energy which you can harness and direct to produce change, and then essentially you will transition from the negative to positive emotion.

Four steps: Acknowledge and overcome resistance, forgive yourself, forgive others, ask others to forgive you.  It’s the elixir of forgiveness, and a powerful tool!  Try it today!  Let me know what you think!

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I went for a walk two weeks ago with my three-year-old daughter at a local county park here in Wisconsin.  The weather was absolutely beautiful; the sun was shining, and there was a gentle breeze in the air — just enough to keep you cool, but not cool enough to necessitate wearing a jacket.  I always enjoy taking my daughter places she’s never been before, because it not only gives me the opportunity to introduce her to new experiences, but it also gives me the opportunity to see how our brains are wired and how they operate “right out of the box” when experiencing new situations.

I decided to take her for a walk through a wooded path — it forked over and over again, so you had the option to “choose your own path,” as it were, as you walked along the path.  Every time we got to a fork in the path, I would ask my daughter which way she wanted to go.  Sometimes the paths looked the same, but sometimes one path looked a little darker or more treacherous.  It was interesting to see she rarely chose the path that was darker or looked a bit more “dangerous.”  She always liked the more safe-looking paths when presented with the option.

We are running on ancient “programming,” as it were.  While we have progressed so much as a species over the past few thousand years, our brains remain largely the same as they were back in the “caveman” days.  Back in those days, we had to struggle just to live to see the next day, so we were built to rely on intuition and “gut” reactions.  We also are hard-wired to remember successful outcomes, so that when we experience a positive (0r negative) result, we remember it and make sure we repeat (or don’t repeat) that again.

Watching my daughter decide which path to take was very intriguing, because she was exhibiting these same “hard wired” behaviors we were built to perform.  It was clear that she felt hesitant about taking a route that appeared more dangerous.

What’s at play here?  It really is all about a protective mechanism that is built into each and every one of us, but it’s a mechanism that we can’t really control.  It’s our subconscious mind.  While our “conscious” mind can be consciously controlled, the subconscious mind operates without our consent or knowledge.  It does what it is programmed to do — it keeps us safe and alive.  This is why my daughter was hesitant to take the “dark” path; her subconscious mind was pulling data from her memory banks and instructing her body to avoid the potential danger in the more treacherous path.  She was executing that ancient program — the program that is designed to keep us safe so we can live to see tomorrow.  Obviously our lives were not in danger on that day, no matter which path we took, but her brain was operating on that “out of the box” program of the “caveman” days.

Here’s a neat trick, however, that we can utilize once we have awareness of this subconscious mind and how it works.  Remember how I said the conscious mind is consciously controllable?  This means that we can consciously refuse or accept anything that we consciously take in through our common senses — the senses like sight, hearing, smell, taste, and touch.  If we don’t like something we see or hear or touch, we can consciously move away from that stimulus.

Everything that we consciously perceive — everything that comes into our sensory systems on the perceptual level — is “fed” to the subconscious mind for processing.  The subconscious mind takes what it is “fed” consciously, and then executes what it is fed.  While we can consciously refuse a conscious stimulus, our unconscious mind cannot refuse what it is “fed.”  It can’t say no!  Our subconscious mind also doesn’t know the difference between what is “real” and what is not “real!”  It can’t determine what is actually true and what is actually imagined!

Knowing this information, we have tremendous power, but the power can be used for or against our benefit, so read on carefully…

If we consciously “feed” our subconscious mind beliefs that are rooted in negativity, scarcity, or fear, our unconscious mind will have absolutely no choice but to tell our body to perform actions that produce that result.  However, if we consciously “feed” our subconscious mind beliefs that are rooted in positivity, abundance, and fearlessness — if we feed it what we “imagine” to be the end result — our unconscious mind will have absolutely no choice but to tell our body to perform actions that produce that result!  How powerful is that?

So even though we operate on an ancient program, this program is very powerful.  We can use it as a tool to positively transform our lives into whatever we can imagine.  We literally have the power to “imagine” ourselves into whatever we want to become!  We just have to “feed” our unconscious mind the goods!  That’s it!

Let me ask you: What are your dreams?  What do you absolutely want more than anything?  Have you asked yourself for it?  Have you been dreaming about it?  Have you been imagining it?  Have you asked for it?

If not, it’s time to ask!  Make it an offer — it can’t refuse!

Take time to check out some great posts that inspired me this past week:

How Bite Size Changes Lead To A Life of Joy And Abundance
One Important Thing You Always Want to Keep Top of Mind
Ruler of Your World
How to Face Your Fears and What Having a Baby Has to Do With It
How To Do the Difficult and Impossible In Spite of Fear

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