How to Maximize Your Potential by Moving Beyond “If…Then” Thinking | VictorSchueller.com

We seem to say it so often.  We seem to think it even more:

“When I get ______ (fill in the blank), then I’ll be happy.”

My daughters say it all the time!

“Daddy, I want to get _______ (fill in the blank).  I’ll be so happy when I get it!”

I ask them, “So, you think that happiness comes from ‘getting’ things?”

They reply with the usual, “Yes!”

So, the question I ask you is the same — Does happiness come from getting “things?”  Do we think that once we get something our lives will be better?

Now, truth to be told, yes, if we think about what we usually seek, which is more money, chances are we will be happy about the fact that we don’t have to worry about where the next dollar is going to come from.  But, here’s the rub: Even if we were to experience more happiness by getting “things,” we’re not going to get those “things” or reach our highest potential if we continue with the same mentality which got us to where we are now, which is not enough “things” at the moment.

It’s “If…Then” thinking.  We say, “If I get _____ (fill in the blank), then my problems will go away, and then life will be better.”

So, how are you going to get whatever you filled in the blank with if you don’t change what you’re doing?  You didn’t really think about that, did you?

The truth of the matter is that we think that we have to change what we do between now and the future, when we actually “get” the “thing” we want.  The reality is that it’s flawed thinking.

Here’s what really has to happen: We need to change what we do “now” to have an effect on what happens in the “between,” which then will impact what will transpire in the future.

By continually thinking that all we need is to get that “thing” what we’re really doing is focusing on the “lack” of that “thing” in the now.  We’re vibrating with an energy that says, “I don’t have what I seek.  I lack it.”  When you send this signal out into the universe, the universe hears you essentially saying, “Hey Universe, I want more of this!”

The universe doesn’t discern what you “think” you want from what you are shouting out from your vibration and energy, so the universe will respond by saying, “You want more?  You’ve got it!”  And, for you, nothing changes.  You still go on, lacking what it is you really desire, and you keep sending out those vibes saying that you lack it and you like it.

So you really need to change what you think.  You actually have to think about what it is you desire, and you have to act as if that comes easily to you, and it’s just a matter of time before the “thing” you desire is on it’s way to you.

I suggest instead of thinking, “When I get _____ (fill in the blank), I’ll be happy,” instead ask yourself, “Wouldn’t it be nice if ______ (fill in the blank with what you desire)?”

When you make this switch, you make it more playful.  You are just enticing the universe to play along.  You say, “Hey Universe, wouldn’t it be fun if _______?” and the universe will say, “You want to find out?  Here you go!  On it’s way.”

Even if you’re not buying this whole “universe” thing, let me ask you this — What harm does it do to give it a try?  Are you going to be in a worse position than before if you give it a shot?  What do you have to lose?

Nothing, I believe.  You have nothing to lose by giving it a try.

Here is an article I wrote that give some more suggestions on some fun things you can try to play with your universal power!

We transmit vibrational energy.  That brings things to us that have a similar energy.  If you want to keep focusing on what you lack, the lack is what you’ll get.  Shift.  Focus on what it is you want, but make it playful.  Act as if you have it, or that you have always had it.  That simple change can really make a difference.

I’d love to hear from you!  Do you engage in “If…Then” thinking?  Do you see how perhaps making the small shift can be helpful to you?  Let me know!  Scroll down and leave a comment below.  I want to hear about it!

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This week I will be welcoming author and garden expert Fran Sorin to my radio show to talk about her book,  Digging Deep: Unearthing Your Creative Roots Through Gardening, as well as her 7-step process for being more creative in the garden as well as in life.

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